Steps to Healing & Tools to Help

Being a healer, and fascinated with the healing process, I’m always thinking about these components, what is needed and how we can best heal.

I got a call the other day from a potential client who called requesting help with an issue. During our per-consult, it was revealed that the issue was triggered and made worse by anxiety. When I asked what was being done to get to the source or help with the anxiety, the reply was ‘nothing.” This has been going for 30 years.

The person had been to countless others who promised healing, all to no avail. When I offered to assist with the anxiety, the person wasn’t really interested and just wanted to be ‘fixed.’ Realizing, I was not the best person to help, I provided some other names of practitioners whom offered other types of services which might better appeal to him and passed on some specific breathing and meditation exercises, in hopes of helping.

There is a misconception out there that another person can heal you.

The reality is that you are healing yourself through the assistance of another.

You are bringing in and allowing the work that is needed to restore balance and health for yourself. The times that I have needed help, I related it to asking someone to helping me move a couch. It’s much easier with the assistance of another.

There are just somethings you can’t (and aren’t meant to) do alone.

We’re all here to help each other.


For guidance in helping you get the most out of your next healing session, here are some basic tips and components of efficient healing. These can be applied to any healing modality (i.e. energy work, acupuncture, massage, EFT, yoga).

  1. Awareness

The first step, before anything is awareness of a state of disharmony or dis-ease. – healing first begins with the awareness of disharmony and then an action to correct. Attention to the different areas physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, etc. This is a skill that is learned and practiced. For deeper trauma sometimes this involves acknowledging, as well as honoring the depth of what you’ve experienced.

  1. Identification- next steps- Awareness helps us know something needs restoring, identification helps us target and identify what is in need of healing and the best method. It’s also helpful to know what is ours and what is others, or the collective. This is a skill that is learned and practiced. Start paying attention to your own energy and be very familiar with that.

3. Use different tools based on what is needed. Sometimes it’s expression, sometimes gratitude, sometimes stillness, sometimes openness, sometimes solitude, sometimes action, sometimes inaction.

Some healing tools:

Being in a relaxed state benefits all methods of healing– when we are tense, we constrict our energy. This impedes the flow of ki, or life force energy. Being in a relaxed state greatly assists the healing and re balancing process. Taking deep breathes helps.

For energy healing or receiving guidance, Allowing is essential – release the need to control. whether you are engaging in healing techniques for yourself or utilizing the assistance of another, it is important to be in a receptive and allowing state. Allowing in the energy to flow helps the energy get to where it is needed.

Releasing – letting go– As energy flows, it is important to release and let go of whatever ‘gunk’ is there, to allow for the new. Holding on to grudges, judgement, guilt, resentment, anger, etc. will only keep you stuck and tied to that energy. It continually feeds the sore and wounds. Where is your focus? Where are you putting your energy? Identify what it is you need to heal and then learn to let go. Surrender. Align with the divine.



‘Seeing’ wholeness. – use your ‘inner eye’ to see wholeness. Hold an image of yourself completely healed. This helps imprint and energetically attract it. Hold a high vision of yourself and others.

Feeling healed – this helps us move towards and embody the goal. Use your feelings to help obtain this inner quality.

The greatest healing tool of all…Love. True healing involves love and compassion for yourself and others.

These steps will help assist in the healing session as well as guide and facilitate your best healing path.

I’d be delighted to work with you on your healing path!

Sending light and love,



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L. Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor and Certified Life Coach. She is a Mind-Body Medicine practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, Advanced Pranic Healer and holds a non-denominational ordination. She completed the Mind-Body Medicine professional training program through The Center for Mind-Body Medicine, University of Minnesota Medical School. As well, she draws on 20 years of training in Psychology, Spiritual Studies and the Intuitive and Healing Arts. She has a passion for helping clients heal and live their best lives. She is a nature photographer, artist and author. Other areas of specialty are guided imagery and meditation, land blessings and honoring services.

She helps clients nationally, internationally through remote session and in-person at her studio.

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