When You Lose Yourself

There are occasions, invariably, when one loses oneself. What is meant by this is, that you find you’ve gotten caught up in something or gone down a wrong road. Sometimes, the next step we take seems right at the time, but ultimately, we find ourselves in a place we know is not right for us. This could pertain to things like decisions we’ve made, attitudes we have or relationships we’ve engaged in. What do we do when we find ourselves in this situation?

095The first thing to do is to give yourself credit for recognizing that you want to be on a better path. This is huge. Be objective here. It will do you absolutely no good to berate yourself or ruminate about where you are. This is an essential part of supporting and encouraging yourself in the path that you want take. Acknowledge and give yourself great credit and support for wanting to be in a better place.

The second step is to correct what you can now. I started playing tennis a short time ago. The organization has a Tennis Code of rules. One thing I love about them, is that they state simply and smartly. For example, in the situation of when you realize that the score is incorrect or you’re serving from the wrong side, the direction is not to play out where you are, but to ‘correct the error immediately’ as soon as it is realized. What great advise, in tennis and in life.

I once bought a large house in a new place and 6 months into it, I realized it was a mistake. Not only did I not want the mortgage and upkeep, it was a difficult environment for me. I wasn’t finding the community I had hoped for. So, at the point that was clear to me, I started activities to move in another direction. Even though, I just purchased the house, I started getting ready to put on the market. Though it took time, it put me on a new path and was one of the best decision I ever made.

Next would be to take and honest look at where you are. Correct what you can now. It is also helpful to see and envision where you want to be. This is essential and a developed skill. It will allow you the vision, foundation and ability to make a plan to get to where you want to be. Think about the steps that are needed to get you where you want to be.

Remember: All transformation begins with a step in a different direction.

Anya Butterfly 1Start a habit of engaging in self and life review periodically. This assessment can help us stay on track towards our wants and goals.

These steps and ideas here will help assist in the creating the life you want.

Engaging with a life coach or counseling professional can also provide fantastic support, perspective and guidance in helping you along the way to achieving your goals. Choose someone who has a good feel and would be a good partner with you. Sometimes supporting our self involves allowing the support and assistance of others.




Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor, Certified Life Coach and Energy Healer. She is here to be a bridge and help us connect spiritually and to our highest self. Her website is BrightStarStudio.net



L. Leigh Love is a Spiritual teacher, Certified Intuitive Counselor and Life Coach, Mind-Body Medicine practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, Advanced Pranic Healer and Ordained non-denominational Reverend. She completed the  Mind-Body Medicine professional training program through The Center for Mind-Body Medicine, University of Minnesota Medical School.  She also has a master’s Physician Assistant medical degree. As well, she draws on 20 years of training in Psychology, Spiritual Studies and the Intuitive and Healing Arts. She has a passion for helping clients heal and live their best lives.

She helps clients nationally, internationally through remote session and in-person at her studio.


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