'Fatherly Love' Day - Bright Star Studio

Happy ‘Fatherly Love’ Day!

This day is to celebrate and honor fatherly love, in whatever form that is.

Let’s change the name from Father’s Day to ‘Fatherly Love’ Day.

Fatherly qualities can include those of Protector, Provider, Guider, Supporter…and many more.

However, not everyone had a physically or emotionally present or father. Unfortunately, a father being absent in life happens all too often, and for many reasons. It can also be an unhealthy or damaging relationship.

If you had a loving father or fatherly-figure in your life, then count yourself lucky and cherish that wonderful support. Let them know how much they mean to you. (You can convey this to them in your heart, if they are not here in the physical.)

If you are a father, realize how much your children need them in your life and to hear that you support and love them. It stays with them always.

Absent Father

For those who did not have a present or good fatherly-figure, Father’s Day can be a painful reminder of that void. It can increase our depression and sadness about this loss and absence in our life. Know that you are not alone.

I have personally struggled with this a lot, as many have. My biological father was essentially out of my life before I could even remember. I never grew up calling anyone ‘Dad’ or ‘Daddy’ and that role was painfully absent. It’s a hard void to manage as a child, and an adult.

Our relationship with our father shows us how to care for ourselves. Accordingly, it is the energy of guidance, strength and support.

Growing up without this can cause us to feel unsafe or not secure in the world. We don’t know how to take care of ourselves and can feel like we don’t matter. Hence, this can lead to poor self-esteem and poor life choices. Furthermore, this is especially true when the lack of fatherly presence was someone’s choice. Feeling apathy or anger from your father also holds particular difficulties.

Everything comes back to how we felt as a child. Understanding this can help give us insight for healing. Hence, the Father-child relationship effects every relationship we have, including the one we have with ourselves.

As with the lack of motherly love, the hard part about not having fatherly love as a child, is that you don’t know what it is truly like to experience it. That is, to feel loved and supported by your father. And because of this, it can be very hard to recognize or be open to allowing fatherly qualities, like guidance and support, in our lives from other sources.

Our task

Therefore, we are tasked with the challenge of having to heal within and reach beyond to find this needed support elsewhere. The energy of ‘fatherly love’ is an important and vital part of caring for the self.

Try to see where the energy of fatherly love shows up in your life. Even if, this is from within yourself, it is important to see. More so, we can bring more or fatherly love qualities to us by recognizing it and being open to them.

Where do you feel or need fatherly qualities like: Strength, Guidance and Support in your life?

Taking some time in honest reflection can work wonders and increase understanding of how we can best heal and bring in more of this in our life.

In my guided meditations and sessions, I often incorporate bringing in the loving presence of Father God, our Spirit Guides and Angels, with their energies of strength, support and guidance for the self. It is exquisitely replenishing and restorative.

I hope it has inspired growth and healing. If this is something you need or want more of, I’d love to work with you.

In kindred spirit,

L. Leigh Love

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