There are occasions, invariably, when one loses oneself. What is meant by this is, that you find you’ve gotten caught up in something or gone down a wrong road. Sometimes, the next step we take seems right at the time, but ultimately, we find ourselves in a place we know is not right for us. This could pertain to things like decisions we’ve made, attitudes we have or relationships we’ve engaged in. What do we do when we find ourselves in this situation?

The first thing to do is to give yourself credit for recognizing that you want to be on a better path. This is huge. Be objective here. It will do you absolutely no good to berate yourself or ruminate about where you are. This is an essential part of supporting and encouraging yourself in the path that you want take. Acknowledge and give yourself great credit and support for wanting to be in a better place.

The second step is to correct what you can now. I started playing tennis a short time ago. The organization has a Tennis Code of rules. One thing I love about them, is that they state simply and smartly. For example, in the situation of when you realize that the score is incorrect or you’re serving from the wrong side, the direction is not to play out where you are, but to ‘correct the error immediately’ as soon as it is realized. What great advise, in tennis and in life.

I once bought a large house in a new place and 6 months into it, I realized it was a mistake. Not only did I not want the mortgage and upkeep, it was a difficult environment for me. I wasn’t finding the community I had hoped for. So, at the point that was clear to me, I started activities to move in another direction. Even though, I just purchased the house, I started getting ready to put on the market. Though it took time, it put me on a new path and was one of the best decision I ever made.

Next would be to take and honest look at where you are. Correct what you can now. It is also helpful to see and envision where you want to be. This is essential and a developed skill. It will allow you the vision, foundation and ability to make a plan to get to where you want to be. Think about the steps that are needed to get you where you want to be.

Remember: All transformation begins with a step in a different direction.

Start a habit of engaging in self and life review periodically. This assessment can help us stay on track towards our wants and goals.

These steps and ideas here will help assist in the creating the life you want.

Engaging with a life coach or counseling professional can also provide fantastic support, perspective and guidance in helping you along the way to achieving your goals. Choose someone who has a good feel and would be a good partner with you. Sometimes supporting our self involves allowing the support and assistance of others.

Warmly,

Leigh

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Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor, Certified Life Coach and Energy Healer. She is here to be a bridge and help us connect spiritually and to our highest self. Her website is BrightStarStudio.net

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L. Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor, Certified Life Coach, Mind-Body Medicine practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, Distance Healing Specialist. She completed the  Mind-Body Medicine professional training program through The Center for Mind-Body Medicine, University of Minnesota Medical School.  She is also a certified Physician Assistant. As well, she draws on 20 years of training in Psychology, Spiritual Studies and the Intuitive and Healing Arts. She has a passion for helping clients heal and live their best lives.

She helps clients nationally, internationally through remote session and in-person at her studio in Hendersonville, NC.

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Being a healer and fascinated with the healing process, I’m always thinking about these components, what is needed and how we can best heal. I referred out a potential client the other day who called requesting help with an issue. During our pre-consult, he revealed that the issue was trigged and made worse by anxiety. When I asked what he was doing to help with his anxiety, he said ‘nothing.” This has been going for 30 years. He has been to countless others who promised to heal him, all to no avail. When I offered to assist him with the anxiety, he wasn’t really interested. He just wanted to be ‘fixed’ and was looking for more of a physical modality. Realizing, I was not the best person to help him, I provided him with some other names of practitioners whom offered other types of services which might better appeal to him and passed on some specific breathing and meditation exercises, in hopes of helping.

There is a misconception out there that another person can heal you.

The reality is that you are healing yourself through the assistance of another.

You are bringing in and allowing the work that is needed to restore balance and health for yourself. The times that I have needed help, I related it to asking someone to helping me move a couch. It’s much easier with the assistance of another.

There are just somethings you can’t (and aren’t meant to) do alone. We’re all here to help each other.

For guidance in helping you get the most out of your next healing session, here are some basic tips and components of efficient healing. These can be applied to any healing modality (i.e. energy work, acupuncture, massage, EFT, yoga).

1. Awareness

The first step, before anything is awareness of a state of disharmony or dis-ease. – healing first begins with the awareness of disharmony and then an action to correct. Attention to the different areas physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, etc. This is a skill that is learned and practiced. For deeper trauma sometimes this involves acknowledging as well as honoring the depth of what you’ve experienced.

2. Identification- next steps- Awareness helps us know something needs restoring, identification helps us target and identify what is in need of healing and the best method. It’s also helpful to know what is ours and what is others, or the collective. This is a skill that is learned and practiced. Start paying attention to your own energy and be very familiar with that.

Use different tools based on what is needed. Sometimes it’s expression, sometimes gratitude, sometimes stillness, sometimes openness, sometimes solitude, sometimes action, sometimes inaction.

There are practitioners who can help you with these. Keep in mind that, the practitioner-client relationship is a partnership and that the healing plan and healing tools should make sense to you and feel good. During, and around, the healing session, here are some helpful considerations.

Some healing tools:

Being in a relaxed state benefits all methods of healing– when we are tense, we constrict our energy. This impedes the flow of ki, or life force energy. Being in a relaxed state greatly assists the healing and rebalancing process. Taking deep breathes helps.

For energy healing or receiving guidance, Allowing is essential – release the need to control. whether you are engaging in healing techniques for yourself or utilizing the assistance of another, it is important to be in a receptive and allowing state. Allowing in the energy to flow helps the energy get to where it is needed.

Releasing – letting go– As energy flows, it is important to release and let go of whatever ‘gunk’ is there, to allow for the new. Holding on to grudges, judgement, guilt, resentment, anger, etc. will only keep you stuck and tied to that energy. It continually feeds the sore and wounds. Where is your focus? Where are you putting your energy? Identify what it is you need to heal and then learn to let go. Surrender. Align with the divine.

‘Seeing’ wholeness. – use your ‘inner eye’ to see wholeness. Hold an image of yourself completely healed. This helps imprint and energetically attract it. Hold a high vision of yourself and others.

Feeling healed – this helps us move towards and embody the goal. Use your feelings to help obtain this inner quality.

The greatest healing tool of all…Love. True healing involves love and compassion for yourself and others.

These steps will help assist in the healing session as well as guide and facilitate your best healing path.

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Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor, Certified Life Coach and Energy Healer. She is here to be a bridge and help us connect spiritually and to our highest self. Her website is BrightStarStudio.net

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L. Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor, Certified Life Coach, Mind-Body Medicine practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, Distance Healing Specialist. She completed the  Mind-Body Medicine professional training program through The Center for Mind-Body Medicine, University of Minnesota Medical School.  She is also a certified Physician Assistant. As well, she draws on 20 years of training in Psychology, Spiritual Studies and the Intuitive and Healing Arts. She has a passion for helping clients heal and live their best lives.

She helps clients nationally, internationally through remote session and in-person at her studio in Hendersonville, NC.

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Your Life is a Team Effort: The Art of Allowing Support

The saying ‘You are never alone’ is commonly spoken. But how often do we really feel those supporting us? If you do, count yourself lucky. For the rest of us, read on to better understand this support and how to access it.

The truth is, you have a spiritual support team. For any challenge, goal, growth and soul development you are working on in this life, there is a wealth of others who want to assist you.

Say you wanted to work on healing from addiction. Your soul would incarnate into a strong family history of addition and environment which would foster this and addictive behaviors. You, then have the challenge, of growing out of it and healing from it to evolve your soul higher. There are others, here and on the other side, who have similar interests in this particular area and want to help you grow, learn, heal and evolve in this particular realm. You may struggle (seemingly) alone for years, having ups and downs, relapses, coming close and falling. However, just knowing there are others supporting you may help shorten your struggles. Asking and allowing others to help can greatly increase you time to healing, recovery and a highest path.

No matter what the goal, issue, challenge, growth or development, there are souls who have similar interests, and actually delight in supporting you on your path to healing and the highest good. This can be the whole range from learning how to manage the loss of a child, healing addiction or abuse, developing gifts, expressing creativity, being a good parent or partner, learning financial responsibility, loving yourself, elevating a profession, developing your skills, being happy, and many, many more.

We are all here to evolve our soul and life in some capacity. And when doing so, we contribute to the greater good. It makes it easier for others and we all benefit from growth and development.

So, how do access this support team?

1. Understand that they are there, they exist. The first goal of this article is just to help you realize that there is a spiritual support team there for you. Some call them spirit guides, some call them angels or guardian angels. They are your soul connected spiritual family. (Keep in mind, our pets can also be part of this team.) Take a moment and be open to this. Also, feel the comfort in this.
2. Remember to ask for assistance. One of the flip sides to having been given freedom to choose, is that no one can help us without our permission. We have to ask. The second goal of this article is to help us remember to ask. Just a simple heartfelt request will do. A simple thank you, is also a nice inclusion.
3. Being open to receive. This is probably the hardest one. Remembering to take time just to be in a space of receiving, quieting the mind and opening up. This could be feelings, messages, thoughts or an inner knowing. Guidance is often gentle and subtle, yet strong and present. The third goal of this article is to help us open up more to receiving guidance, love and assistance.

The last secret that I’ll share, is that when we allow others to assist us, they also benefit. They get to make a contribution and use their skills and talents. It helps them on their path, as well. They actually also get ‘spiritual credit’, if you will, for the assist. Similar to how stats are scored in basketball. One person makes the goal, but others get credit for ‘the assist.’ Letting another assist you is only helping you more, as well as helping them. It’s fun to know that, isn’t it?

There are also professionals who can help you increase the connection with your spiritual support team, work on these aspects to help you make the most out of this life and live your highest self, no matter what the challenge or goal.

Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor, Certified Life Coach and Energy Healer. She is here to be a bridge and help us connect spiritually and to our highest self. Her website is BrightStarStudio.net

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L. Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor, Certified Life Coach, Mind-Body Medicine practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, Distance Healing Specialist. She completed the  Mind-Body Medicine professional training program through The Center for Mind-Body Medicine, University of Minnesota Medical School.  She is also a certified Physician Assistant. As well, she draws on 20 years of training in Psychology, Spiritual Studies and the Intuitive and Healing Arts. She has a passion for helping clients heal and live their best lives.

She helps clients nationally, internationally through remote session and in-person at her studio in Hendersonville, NC.

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With so many different modalities and healing professionals out there, it can seem like a daunting task to choose. How can we better know how to navigate finding the right healer for us or us on our healing path? Here are some tips, guidelines and considerations to help with this process.

1. Good feel. You should get a good feel from the person and the modality. Pay close attention to your inner gut feeling. Read about them on their website. The website should include details about their focus, goals and their trainings. Take time to read their message, finding out more about who they are and what they are about. In person, you should feel comfortable and relaxed around them and during the session.
2. Watch for boastful or false claims. I saw a description once which stated they had over 20,000 clinical trials done. This just simply isn’t possible. Clinical trials are expensive and time consuming to run. The government also mandates that all U.S. clinical trials must be listed on the government site, ClinicalTrials.gov. This is a great resource for people to know about so that they can verify claims of having their device or modality in clinical trials. Another false claim can be ‘being FDA approved.’ In order to be FDA approved, the device or therapy has to conduct official clinical trials. ClinicalTrials.gov is set up nicely to search for any condition, location or company. The results of the studies are also posted on this website.
3. Ask for referrals from friends. One of the best ways to find a good healer, is to ask others. Be sure to inquire what the healer helped them with and what the modality was. Different people will be drawn to different modalities. If the modality doesn’t make sense to you, it’s likely to not be effective. Choose both a modality and a healer who resonates with you.
4. Ask questions. Keep in mind that every healer and modality cannot treat every person and condition. An authentic professional has a good idea of what (and whom) they can and cannot help. They should be skilled and experience enough to know and be practicing this. It’s ok to inquire with the professional about their area of expertise and style.
5. Credentials and trainings. Although there are some intuitives and healers with natural born gifts who came into this world ready to go with their skills and abilities, that is not the majority. And even then, there is always sharpening and skills development needed. The healing professional should have listed on their website how they obtained the skills they have.
6. Testimonials –All websites should have a list of comments from clients. read them. Do they make sense and speak to you?
7. Accessibility – The professional should be accessible. Their website should contain real ways to contact them or their office.
8. Self-evaluation – take a moment to consider what it is you need help with. Someone who just feels ‘stuck’ emotionally will need different skills from a healer than someone with deep trauma or PTSD. Look for practitioners who can articulate being able to help you with what you need.
9. Partners. The best healers are ones who partner with you. True healing comes from within, and a good practitioner will know that they are only brining this out in you. You should have a sense of being heard and respected. The truth is, it’s hard to ask for help with healing. It can be a very vulnerable time. You should get a sense from the healer that they understand this and will work ‘with’ you to create your healing plan.

Finding a great connection with a healing or coaching professional is a fantastic thing to have in your life. It can elevate you and improve your quality of life.

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L. Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor, Certified Life Coach, Mind-Body Medicine practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, Distance Healing Specialist. She completed the  Mind-Body Medicine professional training program through The Center for Mind-Body Medicine, University of Minnesota Medical School.  She is also a certified Physician Assistant. As well, she draws on 20 years of training in Psychology, Spiritual Studies and the Intuitive and Healing Arts. She has a passion for helping clients heal and live their best lives.

She helps clients nationally, internationally through remote session and in-person at her studio in Hendersonville, NC.

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yes, I’ll be corny and reference a popular Bee Gees song. I do so love that song. I find it a heartfelt dialogue between God and human. Take a deeper listen and I’m sure you’ll hear it, too.

Now, let’s get to the real nitty-gritty of this article:

The night before last, I felt someone praying for me.

It’s true, I did. I felt the energy of prayer for me from another. It was sweet and amazing. It was from a neighbor  praying for me and asking God to bless me. It was unmistakable and real.

This was a man, just a day or two prior, I heard yelling for help after a loud crash just moments before. I had my home office doors open as it was an unseasonably warm and sunny winter day. I left to explore and caught a glimpse of my neighbor trapped under a pulled trailer that had overturned and pinned him down on a steep driveway.  He was bloody with multiple facial lacerations. Long, long story short, I was there to lift the trailer and help release him. During his nightly prayers, he was sending me love and thanks for helping him.

This was the second time I felt someone’s prayers for me. The first time I had this experience was while working with a Spiritual Teacher a few years prior. I felt his general prayers of love for me one night. I kind of just chalked it up to the fact I was working with this great spiritual person. I mean, I was surprised to feel it, but it made sense and I was happy to have felt it. It made me engage more with doing the same for the people I do spiritual work for, understanding that it does reach them, even if they are not aware of it.

This time, it felt just as great but triggered a whole new spectrum of wonder to consider. What are the variables at play here that are allowing me to feel this now? I mean, I’m not a bad person and relatively certain someone, somewhere has said a prayer or two for me before. So, why did I not feel it?

Why was I able to feel these two prayers?

I started to look at the two components and considered: what is going on with the sender of the prayer and what is going on with the receiver of the prayer.

There must be some type of quality or energetic level which would enable a prayer to be perceived.

Prayers can be a light, general type of thought that passes. Prayers can also be intensely heartfelt and even charged with depth and emotion. We’ve all experienced the difference between lightly thinking a thought and deeply being connected to them with emotion. I believe the man I helped wanted deeply, with all of his soul, to thank me and send me blessings. I believe this added spiritual weight to it, so to speak.

Interestingly enough, around both of the times that I was aware of the prayers of another for me, I had been involved in studying and working with the spiritual aspects of receiving. This time, I was reading Sanaya Roman’s book, Living With Joy, which states that sometimes we are only open partially to receiving love, even as little as 25%. I looked back on several encounters and could see where I was closed off from receiving love.

I was trying to stretch and actively work on being more open and allowing space to receive love.

Recently, another spiritual teacher, had given me the idea of receiving love from the sunlight and moonlight and I had been practicing this.

It was in the quiet moments of receptive stillness that I was able to perceive the love and prayers of another for me.

I felt I caught a glimpse of what I imagine Helen Keller might have felt the first time she associated ‘finger-play’ with meaning.* It was her door to communicating with the outer world.

Feeling the prayer of another for me opened up a whole new realm of the experience of feeling in the spirit world.  I felt the realness of prayer and the real connection which runs between us.

So, how deep is your love?

How deep are your prayers and how open are you to receiving love?

Keep in mind that even the smallest of prayers have great value. But, if you want to expand these skills, try giving it some thought and attention. Really feel the depth when praying for others and allow yourself to be more open to receiving.

Look at the moonlight and feel love.

Be open to receiving love.

And, as always, give yourself love for engaging in spiritually expansive activities!

Keep me posted..

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*Helen Keller lost the ability to see, hear or speak at the age 6 due to an illness. Her teacher, Anne Sullivan, would spell with her fingers the names of familiar objects into Helen’s hand. Helen enjoyed this “finger play game,” but she didn’t understand it was related to anything significant until the enlightening moment when Sullivan spelled “w-a-t-e-r” while pumping water over her hand. This had been done hundreds of times before, but there was one moment of connection. Helen Keller later wrote:

“Suddenly I felt a misty consciousness as of something forgotten—a thrill of returning thought; and somehow the mystery of language was revealed to me. I knew then that “w-a-t-e-r” meant the wonderful cool something that was flowing over my hand. That living word awakened my soul, gave it light, hope, joy, set it free! … Everything had a name, and each name gave birth to a new thought. As we returned to the house every object which I touched seemed to quiver with life.”

Namaste!

L. Leigh Love

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L. Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor, Certified Life Coach, Mind-Body Medicine practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, Distance Healing Specialist. She completed the  Mind-Body Medicine professional training program through The Center for Mind-Body Medicine, University of Minnesota Medical School.  She is also a certified Physician Assistant. As well, she draws on 20 years of training in Psychology, Spiritual Studies and the Intuitive and Healing Arts. She has a passion for helping clients heal and live their best lives.

She helps clients nationally, internationally through remote session and in-person at her studio in Hendersonville, NC.

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During my ordination training, it was taught that upon completion of this life we are asked three questions by God,

What did you do?

What did you learn?

What did you love?

This really could be all that is said in this article, as these questions are sure to fill you up with much contemplation and introspection.

So, I’ll leave you with the activity of engaging in the deeper meaning of your life.

For those who would enjoy some further commentary, please read on.

Regarding the questions, my guess here is that God is not asking these of your personality, but of our soul. I mean, God is not inquiring about your profession, as if at a cocktail party. Instead, God is asking about that which filled your life.  What did your soul do and engage in?

What did you do…probably as deep as you can go with it.

A sample answer might start out something like “I went to school, became an accountant, got married, had children, saved for my retirement, lived in a neighborhood, I learned math,  I loved my family….and so on.

However, I think the answers are meant to come from the ‘core’ of your being.

Another way to think about it might be from your soul’s perspective…What did your ‘soul’ do?

So, deeper answers could be, for example, “I helped people with their finances. I overcame obstacles. I learned to walk my talk. I loved teaching/being a parent. I loved writing. I loved watching the sunset. “

And yet, a still deeper response might be “I provided honest financial services for people in their times of need and helped educated them in becoming independent. I faced and overcame alcoholism. I developed resilience.   I learned how to see bad events in a good light. I learned the value of family. I loved caring for another. I loved being gentle.”

My intellectual mind thinks that God does not actually ask us these questions because I believe God already knows the answers…probably better than we do.

But, if these questions are asked, it is to encourage us to engage in fully grasping the value of our life, even though (and maybe especially since) we may not have seen it at the time.

And, by having been given this gift of being presented with these questions ‘during’ our life, we have an opportunity to explore this deeper and truly see now…the divinity that exists now in our life. These are the true pearls, the spiritual gains we will take with us.

The physical and the catalyst will fade away and we will carry with us the lessons learned, the strength gained and the love experienced.

Be open to this now. See the blessings and sacredness of your life now.

Ted Andrews states that insects are the ‘keepers of the unspoken word’ and that crows are the ‘keepers of universal law.’

In addition to our lives being lessons and experiences, we also hold spiritual traits as a group and individually.

Examples of such traits would be Integrity, Endurance, Adventure, Partnership, Compassion, Balance, Strength and Transformation. The scope is vast.

Think about your life. What spiritual traits are you espousing?

Once identified, take pride in holding these qualities in existence.  Honor this within you.

So, again, take another look and ask your life:

What did you do?

What did you learn?

What did you love? 

What spiritual qualities do you hold?

Engaging in thoughtful exercises of evaluating our life helps us connect with the deeper and more sacred aspects of our lives. This expands our knowing of our true self, adds meaning and advances our spiritual development. It also settles the soul as we can better feel our value.

Love your life. Honor yourself.

Enjoy.

p.s. If you are struggling with starting, wish to see more or are just curious, send me an email and I’ll send you an example of what I came up with when I first did this exercise.

In kindred and loving spirit,

L Leigh Love

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L. Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor, Certified Life Coach, Mind-Body Medicine practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, Distance Healing Specialist. She completed the  Mind-Body Medicine professional training program through The Center for Mind-Body Medicine, University of Minnesota Medical School.  She is also a certified Physician Assistant. As well, she draws on 20 years of training in Psychology, Spiritual Studies and the Intuitive and Healing Arts. She has a passion for helping clients heal and live their best lives.

She helps clients nationally, internationally through remote session and in-person at her studio in Hendersonville, NC.

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They say that after you complete this life there is a review period… a reflection time to overview your life. It is said this is done with complete love and without judgment.  We assess our choices, state of being, how we handled things, lessons learned, etc.

I don’t know if this is true, but I believe it to be true.

Many also believe it is prudent to get a head start by doing periodic life reviews.

I’ve done this for the past decade…periodically over viewing and assessing my life in this manner; and I have to say that I have found it not only terribly helpful, but life changing, as well.

In the beginning, it was really difficult. It was hard to imagine doing this without being extremely critical and self-condemning. I wept many times over the thought of having to review and relive much of my life…especially the early years.  This was my human-self reacting.

I kept being reminded that the life review is truly done in a place of complete love and compassion. Although it is hard for my human-self to get there, this concept has stretched my abilities. I’ve learned to practice…just the thought of this. I’ve caught glimpses  of this type of divine self reflection, and each time I can experience more of it. It is an easing process.

The other task is to be able to view your life ‘as a whole’ and see it from a larger perspective.  Seeing your life with love and compassion from a large perspective and gently evaluating it offers rich rewards. It can help you come to peace and understanding about your choices and situations. It can help you see patterns and direction. It can help you better align with that which you want to do and how you want to live.

And most of all, it can help you avoid feelings of regret and remorse upon your end-of-life time. It is truly a sad place to be…one of “I wish I had….”

Review now. Resolve issues now. Make peace with your life. Go through periodic times of evaluation to keep on track.

It can also help to ask yourself “When I look back on my life, I want to see…”

Questions to ask yourself would be: What is dearest to your heart? What is it you wish to do most?  While it is true we have as many lives as we want…why wait? Why experience regret, remorse and sadness?

My own self reflection reveals ‘What I want most is to be proud of my life’. I can’t always say I have been able to do that in the past, but I can say that now. I also want to live a beautiful life. I heard a friend comment that she wanted to live a bold life.

It is so easy to get off track. Whatever type of life you desire, keep it close to your heart and your awareness, and periodically assess if you are on track.

Make only choices that support your ultimate goal.

I try to live not being afraid, loving myself and moving forward.

Keep in mind, there is always a turning point where we may decide to go in a different direction; a turning point of growth, love and understanding, and of living more of the divine life that we are given the opportunity to live.

Each of us has this desire within us, whether it is to be a divine parent, mechanic, teacher, real estate agent, or…..

An earnest life review now can help get us there.

Review you life…where do you need to make amends? Where do you need to experience more joy? Where do you need more love and understanding? Where do you need to live in more balance? What will it take for you to live now, in balance, with the feeling of not owing or being owed? Can you release those you feel are indebted to you..those who you feel owe you? Coming to peace with the situation and releasing them frees you.

Do this several times a year and anytime you feel out of balance.

Assess your current actions and be pure with them to assure that you are not making offerings which, in some way, hold the other person in debt to you. Do things because you wish to do them and you want to offer them. Be clear about this within yourself. Do things only when it is right and feels good to do so. Do not make actions out of guilt or to get something in return. Be clear and honest with yourself about this. This will help you to balance your emotional state and above all, love yourself.

Give yourself credit for engaging in challenging task such as this. Be gentle and loving with yourself.

Fix the things you can in your life…let the rest go.

Follow that which brings you joy.

Many do this review and evaluation in a deeply private state, many work with a spiritual advisor to help with guidance and perspective, and many utilize a type of journaling. No matter your preferred method, engage, review and enjoy.

I’d love to hear your experience and comments on the exercise!

In kindred and loving spirit,

Leigh

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L. Leigh Love is a Certified Intuitive Counselor, Certified Life Coach, Mind-Body Medicine practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, Distance Healing Specialist. She completed the  Mind-Body Medicine professional training program through The Center for Mind-Body Medicine, University of Minnesota Medical School.  She is also a certified Physician Assistant. As well, she draws on 20 years of training in Psychology, Spiritual Studies and the Intuitive and Healing Arts. She has a passion for helping clients heal and live their best lives.

She helps clients nationally, internationally through remote session and in-person at her studio in Hendersonville, NC.

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